By Laura Long of Laura All Day Long
A common misconception is that being in a relationship and getting married are the keys to happiness. Many of us dream about our wedding day and envision getting married, having children, and living happily ever after.
But as some of us know by now, that’s not the reality. We graduate and enter the workforce, and suddenly we’re still single, watching our friends experience these things while we “wait” for our turn.
Well, I don’t think we need to wait. Here’s my point: It’s okay to enjoy your single years. I’m 28 and have accumulated more horrible dating stories than I can count, but you know what? I’ve experienced so much life. This world has much more to offer than sitting around waiting on someone else to make you happy. So here are seven ways you can enjoy being single:
1. Discover your passion and invest in it
I love to talk and share pictures and memories, so I decided to start a blog. I have the time and energy to invest in it now. That’s not to say you can’t cultivate your passions once you’re married, but right now, take the time to focus on yourself and inspirational things could happen.
2. Travel while you can
Right now, you have the unique opportunity to see the world as inexpensively and often as you can. Make memories with friends, or if you’re more adventurous than me, take a solo trip. You only have your schedule and finances to worry about, and God created a beautiful world for us to explore. Check out my Italy post if you need more encouragement.
3. Stay out late and sleep in
Or, if that’s not your thing, go to bed early and wake up when the sun rises. Once again, you only need to think about your own schedule. If you want to nap in the middle of the day, no one is going to stop you.
4. Buy that thing you can’t stop thinking about
Alternately, I could have titled this one “TREAT YOURSELF.” Any other Parks & Rec fans out there? Maybe it’s a piece of art, maybe it’s your dream car, or maybe it’s a weekend trip to the beach. Whatever it is, save up and go for it. You’re the one in control of your finances and it’s okay to splurge on yourself every once in a while.
5. Spend time with your parents
Enjoy spending uninterrupted time with your parents. Unfortunately, they’re not getting any younger. I learned this last year the hard way. Without getting too emotional I’ll just say my mom passed away last year, and I know I got to spend a lot more time with her because I was single. I focused on my relationship with her, and I’ll cherish that time forever.
6. Go on the awkward first, second, or third date
And if you’re not feeling it after the third date then stop wasting your time and move on. As much as dating stinks, you thankfully won’t have to do it forever, and you’ll probably end up with some funny stories to tell afterwards.
7. Become the healthiest version of yourself
Now is the time to invest in your health. Create good habits like exercising, making healthy meals, and learning how to take care of yourself emotionally. Along the way you may discover a love of cooking or running. I’m still waiting for the love of running to happen, but once you learn to take care of yourself, it becomes a lot easier to take care of others.
Does all this mean I don’t want to get married? Heck no! I want that as much as anyone, and I think it’s okay to want those things. I just think we should enjoy the present moment instead of wishing time away and dreaming of the next phase of life.
If you spend time making yourself happy and healthy, you can confidently leave your single years behind someday.
You have the rest of your life to be married and have children, so book that plane ticket, buy that sofa, and create memories with your parents. And when the right person comes along, hug them tight and start making memories together!
What do you cherish about being yourself?
Featured image courtesy of Garden Key Co.