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All the Dating Advice We Could Possibly Give Ben Higgins

Ben Higgins can dish it, but can he take it? Last week he shared his advice and learning experiences with Becca Kufrin, the new bachelorette. Now we’re sharing our dating advice with him.

A little feedback may do Ben some good as he dips his toe in the dating pool. Here’s what his best friends have to say:

Give up on dating. Ben is “unlovable,” after all. Just kidding. Too soon? My actual advice: Ben needs someone who believes in him and encourages his passions. My other advice: Let your instincts, family, and friends (especially me) guide you — not all the “geniuses” on social media.

— Jordan

Be present, be peaceful, and always persevere. Those ingredients can help Ben continue building a great story — one his friends are already proud of him for. I also think these things could connect him with the woman of his dreams!

— Riley

What Ben’s mom thinks carries a lot of weight (she’s a wise woman after all). However, when it comes to dating, it’s not always cool to ask your parents. My advice for Ben is to consider someone he thinks his mom would get along with. If she is on board, it’ll be easier to take things to the next level.

— Mitch

With Ben’s recent fame, many people feel like they know him. And he cares about others a lot, which makes it hard when he knows a relationship isn’t meant to be. So, Ben, find a girl who challenges and supports you. Find a girl with a goofy side that makes you laugh. And be your own biggest fan.

— Dylan

Unfortunately we’ve all experienced the crazy that gets thrown at Ben since the show. I’ve told him to be patient and get to know a girl before committing. It’s not always easy to see good intentions. But Ben still has our small-town Indiana roots and deserves someone who appreciates this — away from the TV stuff.

— Brandon

What advice do you give friends about dating?

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  • Reply
    June 4, 2018 at 5:32 pm

    I literally just had this conversation with my cousin. Obviously a little different, but the context was the same. My advice to her was:

    You can’t wait for him to jump in feet first, you have to get out and jump with him. Jump together.

    The point is, you can’t force someone to be ready, you have to let them know you’re in it together. [Borderline] Titanic style– You jump, I jump. [obviously] not literally…unless at least one of you can swim…or you both have life jackets….I’ll stop. 🙂

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    June 4, 2018 at 6:55 pm

    Loved Dylan’s advice- but some dating advice that I always tell myself: Be true to myself and who I am as a person. Don’t try to be something that you think the guy wants you to be (I see that all too often with women). Someone will either love me for who I truly am or not. I would rather be single than be with someone who doesn’t know the true me. And I’m pretty awesome- lol 😂 I’m kidding. (Kind of)

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    Mary Kate
    June 4, 2018 at 6:57 pm

    I’m also new to the dating world and it is a crap shoot…well at least the online dating. But I do not envy Ben’s position at all! It has to be extremely difficult to separate fact from fiction after becoming famous.

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    June 4, 2018 at 9:39 pm

    Ben shouldn’t Give up on Love.
    Ben should find a woman who Respects her family, the man that she love and she will always put God at the center of their relationship.

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    Borg Holst
    June 5, 2018 at 7:13 am

    Ben, God is still asking me to pray for you and Lauren.
    No one can tell more then one “you are my person”. Loren still love you.

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    Lourdes García Morán
    June 6, 2018 at 11:03 pm

    I wish I could have a group of friends like that. Their advices are so funny and assertive. I think it is always important to follow the advice of the people in our most intimate circle because they often know things that we did not know about ourselves. I enjoy reading your posts, there is always learning in each one. God bless you all.
    Affectionate greetings from Honduras.🇭🇳🇭🇳

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    July 21, 2018 at 10:51 am

    Let me just throw a few things out there…
    1. Do not let past experiences dictate what the next opportunity will be like. We learn from past experiences, which allows us to plan better for whats next.
    2. Do not close yourself off from an opportunity. Be open and vulnerable. Let people see the real you.
    3. Take chances and risks because if you don’t you will never know if the opportunity could have turned into something special.

    Keep being you Ben. You’ll find your forever happiness soon enough.

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