Do you make your bed? Priority or not, let me share why my mother believes it should happen.
First, a little background about this debate between my mother and me. Believe it or not, I have strong opinions. I love to have them, share them, and listen to them. If you have an opinion on something, say your favorite restaurant, movie, or political view, be prepared to explain yourself.
My parents learned early on that I wanted a reason behind anything they asked me to do. As a little kid, I didn’t argue for the sake of argument; I wanted to know the purpose and particulars behind their request. My mother was patient. She’d make her request and then wait while I stated my case. She learned to appreciate my opinions and she nurtured my confidence to stand up for what I believe.
One thing we continue to debate: making your bed. We’ve never seen eye-to-eye on this one. In middle school she actually had me write down why I didn’t think this task was important. She wrote down her reasons for bed-making, too. Then we read them to each other, exchanged papers, and dropped the subject. But her rebuttal remains locked in my mind. Let me explore why it’s important to make your bed, according to my mom.
It started with the belief that having your child make their bed was one of the first and simplest disciplines you could ask of them. It wasn’t about perfection, but the process. As I got older she told me that making my bed was a way to show myself respect.
Even if my room was a mess, she would argue that by making my bed — giving it order — my body, mind, and spirit could rest.
When I moved to a small one-bedroom apartment in Denver, my mother reiterated how important this was. She believed I needed a bedroom that looked “put together.” And she hatched a plan to make a headboard together out of our old wooden garage door. She repainted my beat-up college apartment dresser to match. I purchased a nice mattress because my parents said that a quality one is key to having a good night’s rest. Then she had me buy a set of sheets, a comforter, and new pillows.
My mom believes that your bed should be the place where your body, mind, and spirit have permission to relax, find peace, and rest. Treating yourself to a quality mattress, nice sheets, good pillows, and a comforter or blanket that makes you feel warm and secure is part of the process of giving your body and soul permission to rest.
Then, for the millionth time, she said, “Benjamin, just take a minute to make your bed. It doesn’t have to be in the morning, but just give your bed order before you lay your body down at night. Fluff the pillows, smooth the sheets and throw your comforter up to make it look inviting. It might be the only place you have the opportunity to ensure order, peace, and calm in your day.”
Now I own a small home in the Denver area. I must admit that I still hear my mother’s voice in my head when it comes to making my bed. I was excited to call her the other day and tell her about the fantastic pillows I’d purchased. I even admitted I now have an aromatherapy diffuser by my bed. My “white noise” machine is my can’t-live-without peacekeeper. For those who live in dry climates, treat yourself to a bedroom humidifier.
I often do just throw my comforter up over the bed in the morning, fluff the pillows, and walk away. Nothing fancy. It’s just giving myself a small nod of respect, appreciating that I accomplished a task before I even tackled my day.
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By Ben Higgins with Amy Higgins