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“Benjamin, Make Your Bed!”

Do you make your bed? Priority or not, let me share why my mother believes it should happen.

First, a little background about this debate between my mother and me. Believe it or not, I have strong opinions. I love to have them, share them, and listen to them. If you have an opinion on something, say your favorite restaurant, movie, or political view, be prepared to explain yourself.

My parents learned early on that I wanted a reason behind anything they asked me to do. As a little kid, I didn’t argue for the sake of argument; I wanted to know the purpose and particulars behind their request. My mother was patient. She’d make her request and then wait while I stated my case. She learned to appreciate my opinions and she nurtured my confidence to stand up for what I believe.

One thing we continue to debate: making your bed. We’ve never seen eye-to-eye on this one. In middle school she actually had me write down why I didn’t think this task was important. She wrote down her reasons for bed-making, too. Then we read them to each other, exchanged papers, and dropped the subject. But her rebuttal remains locked in my mind. Let me explore why it’s important to make your bed, according to my mom.

It started with the belief that having your child make their bed was one of the first and simplest disciplines you could ask of them. It wasn’t about perfection, but the process. As I got older she told me that making my bed was a way to show myself respect.

Even if my room was a mess, she would argue that by making my bed — giving it order — my body, mind, and spirit could rest.

When I moved to a small one-bedroom apartment in Denver, my mother reiterated how important this was. She believed I needed a bedroom that looked “put together.” And she hatched a plan to make a headboard together out of our old wooden garage door. She repainted my beat-up college apartment dresser to match. I purchased a nice mattress because my parents said that a quality one is key to having a good night’s rest. Then she had me buy a set of sheets, a comforter, and new pillows.

My mom believes that your bed should be the place where your body, mind, and spirit have permission to relax, find peace, and rest. Treating yourself to a quality mattress, nice sheets, good pillows, and a comforter or blanket that makes you feel warm and secure is part of the process of giving your body and soul permission to rest.

Then, for the millionth time, she said, “Benjamin, just take a minute to make your bed. It doesn’t have to be in the morning, but just give your bed order before you lay your body down at night. Fluff the pillows, smooth the sheets and throw your comforter up to make it look inviting. It might be the only place you have the opportunity to ensure order, peace, and calm in your day.”

Now I own a small home in the Denver area. I must admit that I still hear my mother’s voice in my head when it comes to making my bed. I was excited to call her the other day and tell her about the fantastic pillows I’d purchased. I even admitted I now have an aromatherapy diffuser by my bed. My “white noise” machine is my can’t-live-without peacekeeper. For those who live in dry climates, treat yourself to a bedroom humidifier.

I often do just throw my comforter up over the bed in the morning, fluff the pillows, and walk away. Nothing fancy. It’s just giving myself a small nod of respect, appreciating that I accomplished a task before I even tackled my day.

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What are your thoughts on making your bed?

By Ben Higgins with Amy Higgins

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14 Comments

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    Yunnie Kim
    September 7, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    Oh I’m so passionate about this. I’ve watched and read people (and do it myself of course) talk about how making your bed will give you the mentality that you can accomplish and do whatever you need to do that day; it helps you organize yourself. When you leave that first task of the day undone, it prepares your mind to be more lax about everything else. Making your bed makes your day much better!

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    Sarah
    September 7, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    Lucky for me, my parents never asked for me to make my bed! I found your mother’s reasoning very interesting. I had never thought of it that way before. I’ve always imagined it as parents being power hungry and naggy. While it may build character and discipline, I don’t make my bed. I absolutely hate it. And I do it only when I’m cleaning my bedroom. I firmly stand by my decision to not make it because I’m going to sleep in it again later.

    I think it’s interesting that you describe making your bed as creating order. My life is already organized and orderly. I’m in the medical field and for over 12 hours a day I’m making decisions for others and making sure things are going according to plan. When I come home to my bedroom, it’s my safe place. It’s the area where I can decompress and let my life be a complete mess and it’s actually okay. Honestly, I’m usually also rolling out of bed before 5 in the morning, so that extra minute means a lot to me!

    Whether one decides to make their bed or not, I think after a long day it’ll be just as comfy and enjoyable.

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    Molly
    September 7, 2017 at 9:55 pm

    I think every.single.person. in my family makes their beds, except me. My mother even includes accent pillows. She used to make my bed because it frustrated her that much that I didn’t. By the time I was in high school, she gave up. Once I got to college I was super into clean sheets and washed my bedding weekly. I might not wash my sheets as much as I did when I was in college, but I still love going sheet shopping!

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    Briana Nickless
    September 7, 2017 at 10:38 pm

    I agree that making your bed in the morning definitely makes you feel organized and accomplished.🙌 But Ben, do you still have your garage door headboard!?😳 Did you put it back up? This has been bugging me…and my mom!🤓😄 For months! Months, I say! haha(;

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    Amy Carter
    September 8, 2017 at 7:58 am

    I drag my heels every morning (sometimes closer to lunch) before making my bed….. But once it’s done- man I’m happy! As a mom to a little toddler even more so. It is an accomplishment; Just as much as getting dressed is (although pyjama days are lovely now and then) it is the closure of a good night’s sleep and creates a fresh start for the next one. I agree with your mom 😁 And you know…. Mom’s know best 😄

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    Becca
    September 8, 2017 at 12:48 pm

    ha! Once again, our mothers are alike. Mom practically has a panic attack if her bed isn’t made. Cody and I agree that if no one is home during the day….no one is there to care about an unmade bed. However, it’s a vital piece in making your room look nice if you’re having guests over or something. Other than that, we don’t worry about it 🙂

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    Jamie Domecillo
    September 8, 2017 at 2:26 pm

    I couldn’t agree more with you Ben! Although my Mum never told me to make my bed but in general to clean my room. I realised when I went on a holiday last year over there to America when staying at a hotel. I was so tried from the day I went to lay down and thought oh my goodness this bed is so comfortable. I fell asleep in 2 minutes. I decided I then needed to invest in a good mattress, bed sheets and bed frame. So fast forward 6 months later I made my sleeping dreams come true. I take pride in my bed now. I sleep better and when I make it I feel so much more organised and in control. There was a couple of times where I didn’t make my bed and I felt it didn’t set the tone right for the rest of the day.
    Thanks for this post! Also sorry for the length of this message. I’m just so proud and happy of my bed! 😄 P.S. Please come to Australia

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    Mandii
    September 8, 2017 at 2:58 pm

    I’m a bed maker. It never takes more that 2 minutes to make, and I love crawling into a bed that isn’t a wrinkled mass of confusion. Now changing sheets, that’s a different story. I despise that job. Haha!

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    Jennifer
    September 8, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    I agree 100% with your mom! It’s such a small thing, but it means so much. My mother always says that you can tell a lot about a person’s heart and spirit in the way that they keep their house. I do my best to keep everything in its place as a favor to myself and to show God that I’m being a good steward of the things he has given me. It also just feels so good to come home to a clean room

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    Emily
    September 8, 2017 at 5:07 pm

    I was not always a believer in making my bed, but after watching this video years ago by a Navy Seal Admiral I had a change of heart that still holds true today. Making my bed is the first step I can take each day to make my change in the world.

    Video: https://youtu.be/KgzLzbd-zT4

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    Emma
    September 8, 2017 at 6:08 pm

    I like making my bed because after a long day, I like to climb into a made bed. On the other hand, if I’m running late that morning I won’t make my bed and I won’t stress about it, but then I will make my bed right before I go to bed because I tend to sleep better.

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    Jaclyn
    September 10, 2017 at 2:53 pm

    Making the bed in the morning is A MUST for sure. No matter how clean my house is things just don’t feel put together until the bed is made. I have to agree with your mother lol there’s just something calming and peaceful about crawling into a neat bed at the end of the day instead of a twisted up pile of sheets. Listen to your mom 😉 your wife will be grateful.

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    Audra
    September 12, 2017 at 9:57 pm

    Started using my essential oils and diffuser again after reading this (as well as making my bed) and I’ve been resting better for the past few nights! MW FTW! Thx!

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    Haley
    September 28, 2017 at 12:10 pm

    This topic made me laugh. Like many others, I have this debate with my mom as well. I’m sure one of the reasons you listed was that no one sees your bed besides yourself! I do understand the self-respect logic; however, call me crazy…but when I’m finally ready to hit the hay, I get sad if I walk into my room and see my bed made. For me, it’s just one more thing to do before I can finally fall asleep. I’m 22-years-old and just moved back in with my parents. I got home from work the other day and found my bed beautifully made. She insisted that company was coming over…cracks me up every time. Great post Ben!

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