I’m no expert. But, at 25 years old, I began an experience that is a huge part of my story. I didn’t do it perfectly, but I did it. Take my advice or just do your thing — I’m positive you’ll do well.
All this will end
Someday The Bachelorette will be a distant memory. Keep this in mind with every decision you make. It may lead to the love of your life or just another part of your story; either way this is a big deal. And us fans get to watch a bachelorette who is the “salt of the earth.”
Focus on the light
America is rooting for you, and you’ll receive a lot of praise. Don’t let it go to your head. You’ll also receive more criticism than anyone should endure (It happens to everyone.) Don’t let it get you down.
Becca, you’ll feel the negative comments way more than the positive ones. Remember that light overtakes darkness. Focus on the light. Remember where you come from and who you are.
As Chris Harrison once said, “Use this to enhance your life, never completely change it.”
Respond, don’t react
What makes a good bachelor or bachelorette? It‘s all about your reaction. When it comes to struggles or controversy, how will you respond? With patience, grace, and kindness — or the opposite?
Becca, you embody patience and kindness in many ways. Don’t change this. Continue responding to the difficulty of this experience with grace and love. Resist the darkness that can come with sudden fame.
Rest as often as you can
This is simple. Rest. This journey will exhaust you in every way. Don’t get used to being busy; get used to being intentional. Intentionally rest and work each day. Protect time for yourself.
In fact, I challenge you to take 12 hours out of a day each week to rest. Start this now, stand firm, and don’t let anyone take it away from you.
This world will open you up to a ton of hurt. Fans will ask ridiculous questions. Critics will say hurtful things. Your friends won’t always understand. Your family will feel the pain along with you.
Remember why you signed up for the show. You put yourself in a position to be known. When you put yourself in a place of leadership you gave up the ability to overreact and withhold grace.
Be a grace-giver in all situations.
As the bachelorette you have more influence than you ever dreamed. Remember people are watching and learning from you. What and who do you want to represent?
Becca, I’ve seen enough to know you are just what this world needs. I pray for your experience and your future relationship. (I hear you’re engaged!) I hope your love expands and joy is the outcome.
What’s your advice to Becca?
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